An earlier post talked about a Law of Attraction tip for singles to try. The post suggested that singles spend more time with their married and partnered friends. The idea is that you want to soak up the energy of what you want to attract in your life. If you spend all of your time and energy with other singles complaining about how lonely you are and how you want to attract a mate, you’re stuck in an energy of lack. You’re focusing on the single state that you’re in, which brings more of that to you. What you want to be doing is focusing on the life you’re creating so you want plenty of inspiration around you to help you to do that.
But there’s one caveat to that advice. If you find yourself feeling like the third wheel, or feeling bad about your own life by spending so much time with married or partnered folks, you need to distance yourself somewhat. The best solution to avoid this is to make sure you mix it up. Don’t put yourself in the situation where you’re always the only single person around a group of married and partnered people. If you do, invariably you’ll feel a little left out when they start talking about their lives because they’ll all have things in common that you can’t relate to. Instead, make sure you’re around groups that contain both singles and those who are part of committed relationships.
When you are around your married and partnered friends, look for success stories to motivate you. Not every relationship will offer that. Most likely you have some friends or family members who are in relationships that you see are not healthy. You’re better off being single than being with someone who is abusive or who treats you badly, so those are not the types of relationships you want to focus on or attract more of. In fact, you may want to limit the time you spend with people in unhealthy and unhappy relationships. You don’t want to get caught up in their vibration either. Instead, take note of the good relationships around you. Those that have qualities that you would like to have in a relationship. And enjoy hearing stories about those relationships because, again, it puts you in the vibration of attracting more of the same.
If you can’t find any real-world couples to inspire you, try other sources of inspiration such as books. Arielle Ford details how she used the Law of Attraction to go from being single to married to her soulmate, all after she had turned 40, in the book The Soulmate Secret: Manifest the Love of Your Life with the Law of Attraction