When you have a strong attachment to someone, whether it is a positive attachment or a negative one, you and that person may have a soul contract. Think about all of the people who have taught you valuable lessons in life. I’m not just talking about the teachers who you appreciate for their wisdom. The people who hurt you and challenge you to grow often are your greatest teachers in life.
So what is a soul contract? A soul contract is an agreement made between two spirits (between lives or in a past life). The contract sets forth how they will help each other to experience a particular lesson during their physical lives.
How a soul contract may play out
Soul contracts can play out in a variety of ways. For example, say you want to learn how to honor your boundaries. You may have had a hard time saying ‘no’ in previous lives. Now your soul wants to tackle that issue in your current life. Your soul could have made a soul contract with another spirit to help you to do that. That spirit may have incarnated into someone you have a relationship with who constantly walks all over you and does not respect your boundaries. You may eventually get so fed up with that person that you finally stand your ground and establish boundaries with that person. In that case, your soul contract would have been honored.
At the same time, that person may have wanted to learn how to respect others in this lifetime. When you finally learned to demand respect from this person — or if you ended the relationship because of that person’s lack of respect — that may have been your way of honoring that same soul contract.
How to recognize a soul contract
Any relationship can be a soul contract, though they tend to be characterized by strong emotions. It’s not as common for casual relationships to be soul contracts. On the other hand, romantic relationships are very often soul contracts.
If you’ve ever met someone and felt like you were meant to be and then you ended up breaking up, you may have wondered if you were wrong about the person. Not necessarily. The relationship likely was meant to be because it was likely a soul contract. When the relationship ended, it likely meant that the contract had been honored and the two of you no longer needed to be together.
If you recognize that you’re in a soul contract — or that a soul contract has just ended — it’s important that you take the time to learn what the contract had to teach you. Soul contracts are about lessons — important life lessons that will aid in your evolution. As you learn from your soul contracts, you will be following the path you intended to follow in this lifetime.
Another way to uncover some of your soul contracts is to try past life regression therapy. A therapist can give you through past life memories as well as memories for the time spent between lives.