Face it. The first time you fall in love is always the easiest time because you’re full of hope and optimism for the future. But once you’ve been hurt in a relationship, it’s easy to feel stuck and wonder how to find love again. Can the Law of Attraction — the belief that you can manifest what you want with your thoughts — help?
There is all kinds of advice for finding love again. Should you try online dating? Do you need to get out more? Should you try that blind date? Any of these options can leave you frustrated as you try to maneuver the dating scene again. You might meet someone and feel no connection whatsoever, and wonder if you can even find someone who you feel love for the way you felt for your ex. Or perhaps you meet someone that you like, and you think there might be something to the relationship, only to find it fizzle leaving you in a pool of disappointment yet again.
Whether you realize it or not, the Law of Attraction is already working in your life. The Law of Attraction brought your ex to you. Think about the person you were when you met your ex. What did you believe about relationships? What did you think you needed in your life? For example, a person who believes that they must prove someone’s love is likely to attract a partner who they never can seem to measure up to. If you believe you have to earn your partner’s love, you may find that your partner cheats on you or constantly criticizes you or exhibits some other type of behavior in which he shows that you don’t measure up. There is value in this experience. You attract partners in your life that mirror what you need to know about yourself. That way, you can change yourself and in the process change who you attract.
Why you’re attracting the wrong people
If you’re attracting people who you don’t connect with, or you are attracting relationships that quickly fizzle out, ask yourself what you’re believing about relationships at the moment. Are you afraid to connect with someone for fear of getting hurt? Or are you afraid to jump all the way in? Or do you still harbor feelings for your ex? Any of those scenarios can cause you to give off a type of wishy-washy energy, and that, in turn, will attract people who aren’t able or ready to connect with you.
So how can you use the Law of Attraction to find love again? If you’ve been frantically doing online dating and looking non-stop for places to meet people, stop. According to life coach Heather Mathews in this video for her Manifestation Miracle program, one of the biggest mistakes people make when using the Law of Attraction is trying too hard. So if you’re telling yourself you’re going to join Match.com and you’re going to go on a date a week or you’re going to go to every singles event, you must ask yourself what type of energy are you putting out? It sounds like you’re putting out an energy that says you don’t want to be single. Unfortunately, that suggests that you’re lacking love in your life and since you attract what you’re currently feeling, you’ll likely continue to attract a lack of love in your life.
Instead, you want to begin feeling now the way you would feel with a relationship in your life. Sure, you can continue with your online dating or socializing, but do so with the intention of having fun and attracting like-minded souls. That way, when you attract what you are — which is how the Law of Attraction works — you will attract more of that feeling, which will attract the actual relationship in your life. In this short Manifestation Miracle video, Mathews does a great job of helping you to understand that the Law of Attraction is not about doing, but rather it’s about being. If you’ve been trying to attract love with the Law of Attraction and nothing has been happening, chances are you’re identifying all the things you can do to will love in your life, but attraction is more subtle. You must learn to systematically shift your desire to do something into an ability to feel your way to attracting love in your life. In Manifestation Miracle, Mathews explains how to do this, but she also provides what she calls Affirmation Mindtracks that you can listen to to get into your subconscious mind so that your beliefs and feelings about love can change and become more aligned with the relationship that you desire.
The truth of the matter is you’re already attracting the relationship that is aligned with your beliefs. Now it’s time to get your beliefs to be in alignment with the love you really want. For a step-by-step plan for getting there, click here to see a short video on manifesting the relationship you deserve. It’s easier than you think.